Daily Mom Hug | You Feel Like Shit
An interactive Self-Care Guide
Good morning, fam! And TGIF! We made it through another week!
As we embark on the weekend, I wanted to share with you an online tool that has helped me a lot over the years:
From the creator, Jace Harr,
“This is meant to be an interactive flow chart for people who struggle with self care, executive dysfunction, and/or who have trouble reading internal signals. It's designed to take as much of the weight off of you as possible, so each decision is very easy and doesn't require much judgment.
Set aside some time--maybe an hour total- to allow yourself to work through each step. Don't rush or skip ahead--just follow the directions. Self care is important, and you deserve to devote some time to it.
You may want to go through this routine as soon as you wake up, as a preventative measure.”
While I don’t use this every morning, when my normal strategies aren’t working, I will go to this website to walk through the steps to get me back on track.
This process is not a competition. There is no ‘winning’, aside from getting you back on track, and the creator made it with the understanding that you’re not going to get through it every day. So that takes ‘losing’ off the table, too.
And that’s completely okay.
What I like about it most is that it refocuses my brain gremlins into a logical set of ‘yes’ and ‘no’ questions and it tells me what to do, based on my choice. And sometimes I really need someone else to tell me the things I know logically.
Because when I’m in the weeds, I am so far from logical.
So I hope this helps you, too.
Remember that any new habit or resource can take time to embed into your life. Do not beat yourself up if you didn’t get as far as you feel you should’ve. Also, don’t beat yourself up if this doesn’t work for you. We’re all unique human beans, and just because this works really well for me does not mean you’re screwing things up, if it doesn’t work for you.
All I suggest is that you give it two weeks of honest effort. After that, we’ll find something new to try.
Have a wonderful weekend, fam. And remember you’re never alone. We’re here with you. I’m here with you, and we’ve got this.